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Friday, 6 September 2013

How To Keep Him Interested

By Monica Nice


It's a well known fact that guys can lose interest in a relationship very quickly. One day everything's fine, and you're being treated like a princess, the next day you're dumped and you didn't even see it coming. Follow these tips on how to keep him interested, and hopefully you'll stop your boyfriend's mind and heart from wandering.On the whole men avoid confrontation like the plague, and the words "we need to talk" make them run for the hills. If you want to know how to keep him interested, avoiding rows is a good way to start. Often men don't realise when they've upset you, and starting an argument about it will just push them away. If they've done something you're not happy with, have a calm conversation about it instead of a row, and make sure you have a kiss and cuddle after to show that everything's ok.

One of the best ways to keep a guy interested is to impress a guy with your intelligence. In case you don't know, most men admire women who are smart and women they can have interesting conversations with.

What does your boyfriend like to do? The chances are the words sports, cars and films are in there somewhere! Get to know a bit about his favourite sports team and learn something about the cars he likes so you can share his passions with him. Maybe go along to occasional events or games with him, and make the effort to sit through those all action movies he loves. However, don't forget that he likes to do most of these things with the boys, so give him the space to do that while you spend some time with the girls.I'm not suggesting you turn into a porn star overnight, but if you're looking for ideas on how to keep him interested, maintaining a varied sex life is one of the most important. Simply initiating sex from time to time, or leading the way with new positions can be enough. If you're usually a lights off in the bedroom kind of girl, surprising him on the sofa can score you points. If you're looking for something a bit more adventurous, dressing up a little, or light hearted dirty talk can really spice up your sex life.

Have there been times in your relationship that you think that the spark is gone or that he's changed? My boyfriend once told me that sometimes he wishes women would truly hear and understand them. I have to agree. Most of them aren't the egotistical, self centered Neanderthals that we sometimes think they are. But at the risk of using a worn out clich, men at times are really misunderstood. Honestly, the times when you think they're losing interest and you doing anything and everything to keep him interested in you most of the time makes the situation worse. So I asked him what should we do? According to him, here are a few tips on how to keep a guy interested in you:

Have you ever been accused of being to clingy or smothering? After the discovery phase of a relationship, men generally don't talk too much. It's not that they've lost interest in you it's just that they feel more comfortable being with you or away from you. They go back to watching the game with the guys or attending the weekly poker night again. And please, no inquisitions afterwards. Men feel that they don't have to explain or elaborate on every single thing that they did while you were apart. Not that they don't want to share. They just don't feel l it's important. Trust me, if it were important, they'd share it with you.

This means that you will have to think like the guy. Don't try to reason things out like a woman because you will end up sobbing your heart out instead of looking at the facts in a logical manner. Look at your relationship through a microscope and find out if there are things that could make him slip away. Deal with those areas positively.A guy can only take that much! You may look like a sex bomb or a fashion model - but that does not guarantee your man's love and interest for a lifetime if you have a bad attitude. No one can stand a woman with a bad attitude so clean up your act!

Another sure fire way to keep him interested in you: Just as they need space so do you. As mentioned earlier, let him miss you. Have a night out with the girls. Go shopping. Resist the urge of wanting to be with him. Now this appeals to the more primitive side of man. They love a challenge. When he sees that you're not as available as you were at the start of the relationship, he slips into the puppy mode and tries to get back your attention. A word of caution: don't overdo it. Someone else might find your lost puppy and bring him home.

Probably one of the more common mistakes (that you don't even realize or won't admit you've been doing) is taking him for granted. Whatever happened to that sexy, hot and interesting woman he fell in love with? Just because you've been together for years doesn't give you the right to put on 20 pounds and go out in jogging pants and an old college sweater. Always try to look good both for yourself and for him.




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